Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.
Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.
The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.
Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.
Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.
The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.
You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.
Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.
Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not two lovers will be capable of spending their lives together: if they are able to forgive and forget.
Because love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices – choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.
They may be poor calls of judgment, lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our pasts haunt us. We move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship.
Because lovers who can’t work together don’t like to accept this fact, they have a tendency of breaking up and getting back together repeatedly.
Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. But the problem is, they’re still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons come out.
When love scars, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. When you hurt the woman you love enough, she won’t come back to you. And because you still love her, you wouldn’t take her back even if she asked you to.
You don’t trust yourself not to hurt her again and even if you did, she wouldn’t trust you not to hurt her again. Relationships are built on trust and you shattered her trust.
Chances are, you both have bruises that have never fully healed and likely will never fully heal. And that’s just something you decided that you’ll have to live with. Why?
Because you really don’t have any other options. You just hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and so you don’t have to worry about her happiness anymore.
You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old — which it can. But that doesn’t mean you will ever stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. And so is the darker side of love.
Alright readers, its raining outside and I'm alone at home, while I was reading articles online, I stumble upon this article and its something that I can relate to so I thought that it would be nice to share it out. Yes I'm feeling a little lovey dovey/ jiwang tonight. Blame it on the weather.
KUCHING, 24 March – Early bird tickets offer for the upcoming Borneo Jazz in Miri, Sarawak are now on sale at www.jazzborneo.com.
Early bird tickets priced at only RM30 for adult single entry and RM55 for a 2-day pass. Children under the age of 12 years will enjoy RM15 on each purchase of single entry ticket during this period and RM25 for a two-day pass. This offer is valid until 31 March 2014. After this offer, ticket price will increase to RM50 for adult for single entry and RM95 for a 2-day pass. Children tickets will be RM25 for one day and RM45 for 2 days. These will be available until the event day itself when ticket prices will be RM70 for adult for a day and RM130 for a 2-day pass. Children tickets at the gate will be RM30 for a day and RM50 for 2 days.
Running over the weekend 9-10 May at the Parkcity Everly Hotel in Miri, Borneo Jazz promises two days of fine jazz music with great food and a craft bazaar at a very beautiful beach resort ambience.
Now in its ninth year, the festival will ensure wonderful Jazz music in an exotic setting. Apart from the stage, the program this year will showcase marching bands from school bands who have participated in international competitions. They will kick off the programme daily. After the stage shows, those of you who have not had enough of the jazz music, you will be able to have a jam session with your favourite bands. For those who still want to party, we will have a Club Set with a well known DJ at the venue.
The lineup this year is without doubt an exciting one. The festival will be featuring bands from countries never featured before and also bands having repertoires that are unique. Borneo Jazz will be featuring a band from Georgia - Iriao, which is an ethno-jazz band and their repertoire has been recognized by UNESCO as being a masterpiece of oral immaterial heritage.
Brassballett from Germany – the first and only show worldwide where musicians will play their instruments and dance at the same time, a unique performance not to be missed. Vocal Sampling – salsa band, and all-male a-cappella musical group from Cuba. They are a very well-known band and a crowd pleaser. In the last 2 years, a capella acts have been a show topper at Borneo Jazz. Their album “Cambio de Tiempo” was nominated for 3 Latin Grammy Awards. Mario Canonge - a great virtuoso and showman playing creole jazz with West indies rhythms from Martinique/France, also a first Matinique band at the festival. YK Band from Indonesia who will feature Jazz from Samarinda with hints of Borneo flavours. Anthony Strong – hailed as “England’s new jazz superstar" from UK. He beat Gregory Porter, Michael Bublé and Harry Connick Jr. to become No. 1 on the iTunes and No.2 on the www.amazon.com jazz charts in the USA.
From the local scene, Diana Liu the Sarawakian born artist who plays various jazz, bossa nova, gospel and funk/soul and will represent Malaysia/USA/Taiwan. Among members of her band will be our very own Lewis Pragasam who will be on drums. Another Malaysian band will be Junkofunc, a highly energetic rhythms with a touch of soul and lashings of func. The group plays a punchy brass, powerful vocals and pounding rhythm section.
For more information on the festival program and for details of ticket outlets please log on to www.jazzborneo.com.
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SARAWAK, Malaysia – The 9th edition of Borneo Jazz is set to take place in Miri, Sarawak and volunteers are still needed to ensure a successful event.
The festival will be held on 9 – 10 May and will feature various kind of Jazz music from around the world. The festival will also feature arts and craft bazaar which will represent the unique cultures of the people in Borneo.
Every year, Borneo Jazz are powered by the volunteers that come from various background of individuals or groups to run the activities. Within the festival, volunteers will be assigned to various divisions such as technical and operational, logistic as well as marketing the festival. The volunteer program is designed to provide an overall understanding of the operational aspects of the festivals in order to ensure the success of the musical events organized by Sarawak Tourism Board.
Those interested to volunteer during Borneo Jazz 2014 may register from the Borneo Jazz website atwww.jazzborneo.com . The completed volunteer application form must be submitted to firstname.lastname@example.org for processing. The successful applicants will later be notified via email or telephone.
The Borneo Jazz volunteer program provides a learning platform for all the volunteers. Although ideal attributes will vary from role to role, all volunteers must be able to conduct themselves in line with the Festival’s core values, which is integrity and teamwork.
The festival organizer will provide T-shirts to be worn while on duty. The volunteers will be assigned to perform duties on shift, which covers day or night festival program. The volunteers maybe needed to run the selected management areas a few days before the festival starts in order to ensure festival readiness.
STB has also opportunities to volunteer at other events in Kuching, the Borneo World Music Expo (BWME) to be held on the 16-18 June, the Rainforest World Music Festival (RWMF) to be held on 20-22 June and the Asia Music Festival on 9-10 October in Miri. The application for all events is made through its respective websites at www.borneomusicexpo.com, www.rwmf.net and www.asiamusicfestival.net
MIRI, Sarawak – Borneo Jazz has announced its lineup for 2014. The impressive line-up this year includes acts who have really made it big in the world of jazz. This is in line with year of ‘double celebration’, the Visit Malaysia Year 2014 (VMY 2014) and Visit Sarawak Year 2014.
Among the bands that will be performing will be Iriao, an eight-piece ethno-jazz band from Georgia. Iriao’s repertoire is based on Georgian authentic folk instrumental and polyphonic music, which has been recognized by UNESCO as being a masterpiece of oral immaterial heritage. However the band aims not to modernize the unique polyphonic Georgian music but to saturate and adorn it with jazz elements. This is the first time that a Georgian band will be performing at the Borneo Jazz.
Another interesting line-up is Vocal Sampling, an all-male acappella musical group from Cuba who are expected to be a hit at this year’s Borneo Jazz festival. They are a very well-known band and a crowd pleaser. Their album “Cambio de Tiempo” was nominated for 3 Latin Grammy Awards. In the last 2 years, acapella acts have been a show- stopper at Borneo Jazz.
Other popular jazz bands listed for this years’ event will be Brassballett from Germany – the first and only show worldwide where musicians are dancers at the same time. They will perform a choreographed show whilst playing their instruments. Mario Canonge – a great virtuoso and showman playing creole jazz with West Indies rhythms from Martinique/France, will be the first Martinique band to perform at the festival. YK Band from Indonesia will feature Jjzz with hints of Borneo flavour. Anthony Strong – hailed as “England’s new jazz superstar” from UK. He beat Gregory Porter, Michael Bublé and Harry Connick Jr. to become No 1 on the iTunes and No 2 on the Amazon.com jazz charts in the USA.
From the local scene we have Diana Liu, the Sarawakian born artist who plays pop, jazz, bossa nova, gospel and funk/soul. She and her band members will represent Malaysia/USA/Taiwan. Among members of her band will be Malaysia’s very own drum virtuoso, Lewis Pragasam.
Entry tickets will go on sale in the last week of January 2014. More can be read at www.jazzborneo.com. Updates also available via STB’s Twitter account @SarawakTravel and Facebook at Sarawak Travel. Or you can also view the ticket information via the Borneo Jazz 2014 page.
The annual jazz festival, now in its 9th year, will be held in Miri, Sarawak from the 9th to 10th May.
This annual event is organized by Sarawak Tourism Board, supported by the Ministry of Tourism and Culture Malaysia and Ministry of Tourism Sarawak; and endorsed by Tourism Malaysia.